Maybe that is the reason they want to come to the United States of America because they want a man who is not traditional Ethiopian or other African national. Even here, many men who are adult by law have a lot of growing up to do and to learn how to respect themselves and others.
One Ethiopian lady that I know is going to school so that she can have a better life than she can in Ethiopia. She also wishes to help her family when she completes her education.
African women unite! Some times tradition is totally wrong such as the way many African women are viewed by the men in positions of power.